Youthful lust and relationship

By Nwonumaru c. Joshua

 As a youth, you may have had the experience whereby you  thought you have found  love only to discover at the end that the love you thought to have found was not really love but lust. This experience usually come to us in our adolescent period, when we are first attracted to the opposite sex. At this time, you could have this strange tingling exciting feeling, whenever you see the person you have this feeling for,  it would be as if you have seen a shooting star. When you are in such relationship, you feel like you are flying over the moon. Even when your parents try to warn you about the dangers of such ‘puppy love’ and the feeling of infatuation you ignore them thinking that you have found the love of your life.

Some of us have had this experience a number of times, each time thinking that the new feeling would be the ultimate but only to found out at the end that those relationships were never made to be.

Love is more that emotions and it is deeper than affection, but unfortunately thousands of people make terrible mistakes because of not knowing how to handle adolescent emotion. This adolescent emotion often leads to premarital sex which in turn leads to unwanted pregnancy and veneral disease

Some people have misinterpreted this feeling of lust and went into premature marriage and now they are living in perpetually regrets. They may stay in the marriage because of their children or religion but when you look at their lives properly, it is full of regrets.

To avoid these mistakes therefore, every youth must endeavour to live his or her live according to the dictates of the word of God. God given formular for happiness and success in relationship is total abstinence from sex before marriage,  then after marriage you can build a sound healthy sexual relationship. See 1 Corinthians 6:18.  There is big deferent between lust and love, lust will always lead to sin but True love does not thrive in iniquity. Therefore, ‘Don’t be led astray by your own great folly so you don’t die for lack of discipline’ (Proverb 5:23) rather take hold of the word of God and run with it for it your surest way to success in marriage.