Sam Akhigbe.
‘Every woman was taken out of a man, and
as such there is a right woman for every man. But the challenge is how to
locate her’. This submission was made by one the guest speakers; Deacon Francis
Abiodun at the marriage seminar held by PRAISE
FAMILY on Sunday, 27th May, 2012. In view of this, can it be said that for
every man there is a particular woman? The answer is emphatic NO! What it simply means is that, if you
can seek God earnestly he will lead you to the right person for marriage. The
will of God in marriage is critical because, the consequences of choosing a
wrong partner could last for a life time.
Other distinguished speakers at the
seminar were Mrs. Uchenna Nduaguibe; our very senior brother, Mr. Tony Uleh;
and one of our fathers, Elder John Nduaguibe. It was said that nothing is wrong
with a sister setting a standard for herself, as to the kind of man she would
like to settle down with. However, there was a note of caution, that when such
standard is too high brothers may not come. This is why today, many ladies who
have passed the age of marriage are still singles.
To this end, Mrs. Nduaguibe therefore
strongly admonished that sisters should not always put emphasis on material
things, that when one is married in the will of God His blessings will
certainly come with time. She further advised, “When a young man talks to you
as a lady, please look beyond his present status and see if he has a vision and
how serious he is about life. Then you must seek God in prayers to direct you
because, the brother you see as nothing today could become somebody tomorrow”.
She then stated that most successful people around us today started from very
humble beginning.
As a follow on that, bro. Tony Uleh
encouraged sisters to always be polite about the way they say no to brothers.
According to him, “So long as you are a lady, potential suitors will always
come, including those you do not like at all. But the manner in which you turn
them off speaks volume of your character and how much of a child of God you
are.” He went further to admonish the brothers to stop putting emphasis on
outward looks alone, that the real beauty of a woman lies within her; and
through prayer, they can locate their right partners and settle for a fulfilled
married life.
While reacting to questions from the
audience, Elder John Nduaguibe in his fatherly advice, stated emphatically
that, the first thing to consider in choosing a life partner is to find out
whether the person is really a child
of God, that the will of God for every believer is to marry somebody who is
also a believer. Once this is settled other things can follow, but the most
fundamental thing is love. He then said, “Every disappointment in relationship
gives us the opportunity to choose a better partner.”
SOME
HARD FACTS:
·
It has been observed
that most ladies turn off brothers because they have someone in mind they
believe would talk to them. But in the actual sense, such brother might only be
interested in friendship and nothing more, hence, they get disappointed when
the brother eventually hooks up with someone else.
·
It has also been
observed that most ladies want “ready-made” brothers who’ve got the money.
While the brothers get carried away by beauty, education and rich family
background, even though the parties involved here are not spiritually grounded,
to these folks it does not matter.
A
NOTE OF CAUTION:
To the brothers, education or beauty is
good, but without character marriage is can be miserable, full of pains and
regrets. And to the sisters, if you put yourself in a class, be rest assured
that no responsible man will come. But when you make yourself approachable, the
right man is out there waiting for you.
…to your
success in marriage!
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